The Menu

She doesn’t do, well…the same things in the bedroom that she used to do. That’s what he told me. Ah, the menu… one of my favorite subjects to write about. Here’s how the story goes. Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. Girl does everything she can to keep him. Time goes by….it comes to a…

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Cracks And Crevasses

Cracks and crevasses. That’s where I go. That’s what I do. It’s 4:30 in the morning and I am getting ready to walk into the gym. It’s dark outside. I challenge myself to be better than I was yesterday. I do that every morning, 365 days a year. Early Friday morning, before most people leave…

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Next Level Magic

Stop trying to save people. Just love them. They’ll learn to save themselves. People don’t need saving. They need support. With over 3 decades in mental health, I have learned just how powerful this is. Because everyone is talking, and no one is listening. Make eye contact. Clear your mind. Give someone your undivided attention.…

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Already Packed

I was going to write about the COVID culture, and how the act of bullying has taking over {by both those for and against}, but spirit decided that I should write about something of substance and depth. So get ready, for I am going to talk about what we don’t want to talk about. Death.…

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The Lone Tango

She’s out with her friends, he’s at the bar. She’s on the phone, he’s watching Sports Center. She wants to go to dinner, he wants to go to a game. She’s watching TikTok, he’s watching porn. She wants to dance, he wants to chill. Well there you have it. The lone tango. Out of the gate, many relationships…

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Paying For Past Sins

She sat in my office crying, wondering why she was such a bad person? I told her she is not, because that debt has been paid. I see this scenario play out all too often in relationships. It’s toxic and bullshit. When the debt has been settled, you don’t keep paying interest on it. Let’s…

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Post Pandemic Relationship

Alright, alright, alright…lets get into it. While the pandemic is again on the rise here in the states, I wanted to take a minute to reflect on post pandemic relationships. As it appears we will likely go into a lock down again in the coming months, lets talk about what we learned about our partners, and…

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The Mark Of Maturity

The other day due to work, I found myself in an environment at time that I shouldn’t have been in. I was confronted and threatened. The situation was aggressive and I had to rely on my years of training. No one knew where I was. And it looked like I was going to have to…

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Next

Next! The root of all evil. Too many people are stuck in the mindset of next. The next relationship, job, car or day. Thinking ahead, gets us further behind. Let me explain.  I’ll start first by dropping dime on myself. While I am probably one of the most laid back people you would ever meet,…

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Halt! The Quick Fix.

Yes darlin, it’s that easy. It’s how the magic happens. Most of our problems will cease to exist if we just halt. And by halt, I mean H. hungry, A. angry, L. lonely, T. tired. When it comes to making decisions, avoid making them if you’re hungry, angry, lonely or tired.  We’ve all seen the commercials…

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